Have you ever been taught a lesson by your own child? Nah…I’m sure it’s just me, right? No? Okay, good. I’m so glad I’m not the only slow-learning parent here!
Well, the past few months my
oldest son has had difficulty remembering to do simple tasks. Such as zipping
up his pants after using the restroom or shutting the bathroom door after he’s
done. (We have small children who seem to think the toilet is a FUN place to splash and play if we don’t keep the
door shut. YUCK!)
Now, he’s been potty-trained
since he was about 20 months old. Yes, I know that’s not normal. Believe me…I KNOW! (My 3yo could really care less about the
toilet these days!) We were so proud and yet, shocked at the same time. He was
so young, yet he was determined not to wear another wet diaper! Fine with me!
We loved it!
But, since he was able to go
on his own, we’ve had to constantly remind him to flush the toilet, wash his
hands, close the door and on those occasions when necessary, to wipe! At first,
we thought it was because he was still getting used to doing it all on his own.
But, we’re still doing it!! EVERY
TIME!!! I get so frustrated sometimes and then I get mad at myself for getting
frustrated.
Finally I thought…I should talk to him about why he forgets…DUH! So, I did. We sat down and talked. He said he
just couldn’t remember and it gets confused and forgotten. I honestly thought
it was just an excuse. At least at first I did. Then, the more I talked to him,
the more I realized the details is what he couldn’t remember. He didn’t want to
be bothered with them. He knew how to use the restroom, when to use it and
where, but that’s all he “needed” to remember.
I started doing some research
and asking questions to some friends. After all my efforts, I began to think he
just might have some Asperger characteristics. So, I began looking into things
that would help him and us. Especially relieving some of that tension and
frustration on both our parts.
One sight I came across
mentioned making signs and posters (with or without pictures) that gave basic
instructions-in order. It helps them and they can more follow those versus
verbal instructions.
I prayed and prayed over the
information I found. It was so much to digest and take in. So much to go
through and process. But, I was determined that he would be able to learn and
learn to the best of his abilities. (This behavior was also negatively
affecting our schooling efforts.)
After much prayer and
research I sat him down again to talk. I asked him why he couldn’t remember
those simple tasks and what would help him remember. Much to my surprise
(although, after bathing it in prayer I shouldn’t be surprised at all), he said
he wanted signs in the bathroom and his room. Ones that told him exactly what
to do when he went to the restroom, washed his hands, his morning and night
time routines. WOW!!! What an answer to prayer! I was so worried that he would
hate the idea and think we were calling him “dumb” or something. What an
AWESOME God we serve!!!
So, I told him I would make
the signs. Now, here’s where I had another parent-fail (not that any of you
have had one, right?)…that was the beginning of
January. UGH!
The toilet sign. Sorry the toilet is in picture, but I wanted to show you where I put it. But, now that I think about it, that's kinda weird... |
Now, I’m not one for
illusions of grandeur, but I do envision a much smoother day and less arguing
about whether he has to wash his hands or not! It’s there…in color…on the wall. That’s
makes it a law, right? At least that’s the way he thinks and that is what matters.
The Morning & Evening Routines are on the left and the Hand Washing is on the right. |
Those of you who have special
needs or Autistic children or one with Asperger’s, what other “tricks” have you
found that work with daily routines? Please share what you have learned or some
of your favorite sites. I would love to have more resources!
Blessings,
Annette
(NOTE: Our son is not diagnosed
at this time. We are still seeking prayer and researching some things on our
own before subjecting him to such tests.)
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